So I just read a post from another young black male like myself who was writing on a black forum website. He said that he was very outspoken about racial injustice and was very proud of his heritage. He met a very kind and attractive Italian girl in high school and they immediately hit it off. Its been over a year and they are still happily together. To get to the point, the young man was asking if it was irreconcilable for him to be outspoken about systemic and enduring racism while simultaneously dating a white girl. I was horrified by the responses he received.
The first response was something along the lines of "you're an idiot get off of our forum" No further explanation was given. A few other people chimed in with words of encouragement, saying the choice was ultimately his. Then a Black female gave her opinion and all hell broke loose. She called him a poison because he dared to date outside the race and said that he obviously doesn't care about black people since he's dating some random Italian chick. I almost signed up for an account just so I could tell her what a heartless bigot she really is (and no those weren't the only words I wanted to use).
Seriously isn't life hard enough without us bringing our fellow brothers and sisters down? True love is always enough to overcome anything, race and other superficial differences should not matter AT ALL. Recently John McCain drafted a bill to posthumously exonerate a famous black boxer who was convicted in the early 1900's for consensually dating a white woman. After all back then such horrors were against the law! Where are we as a people when our mate is determined, not by how good a person they are or what chemistry the relationship possesses but by the color of their skin? Didn't Dr King give a great speech about that very sort of thing a little over 40 years ago?
According to this logic anyone who dates outside the race is a traitor, well sort of. And please pay attention because this double standard is tearing our communities apart at the seems. From what I've heard in conversations with other people, it is socially acceptable for a black man to date a latino, asian or any other race OTHER than a white woman. As soon as that barrier is crossed, then all bets are off. Sistas start freaking out, talking about how the dude wants some docile and submissive white woman over a strong Black one. No, maybe they just really love each other. From what I've heard, men don't really give two tail wags who women date in terms of race. That could be wrong, maybe I just haven't seen that sentiment expressed yet.
The truth of the matter is that this is not just a Black female or Black male issue. Everyone should be allowed to date whoever they want and everyone else should just mind their own business. Being on the receiving end of these comments is hurtful, aggravating, and downright unnecessary. I've talked to white females seriously before and was totally fine with it. Unfortunately some of my friends weren't. "What you playin in the snow now?" was actually one of the nicer comments I got. I won't bother posting the other ones.
When will people get over this? People its 2009, we have a Black President in the oval office and experts report that most Americans will be of mixed race by 2040. I'm currently involved in a relationship with a beautiful, intelligent, strong Black woman and I couldn't be happier. But would it really make me a traitor if I dated someone that didn't look like me? I choose real love over archaic prejudices any day. I can only pray that everyone comes to realize the truth before its too late. In the meantime I have to hold in my anger. Its hard though. I hate bigotry and racism of any kind, especially coming from Black people. Really? Come on people, we've experienced it often enough. We should know better.
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